It’s been 84 years, or so it seems, since I was asked if I would like to write something about my experiences as a ‘geek mom’. Or should I say: a geek mom to be. So I jumped at the opportunity of course, but as a true procrastinator it took a while before anyone could see this blog *cough* 7 months later *cough*. It’s not that I didn’t want to tell other (expecting) moms about my experiences and thoughts about the matter. I even started writing this blog item a few times. It seemed so much fun to do and so easy. I mean, being a geek? Check. Having a baby? Check.
Will she quickly turn her back on our fandoms and become more *gasp* mainstream?
But as I stared at my screen questions started ghosting in my head. What is my daughter going to grow up to be? A SlytherClaw like her mom or a Jedi like her father? And what does it mean to become a geek mom? What does it mean to become a mom, period!? I mean… till now I’ve been as maternal as Deadpool.
What to expect when you are expecting… Geek mom style!
How in the hell am I going to do this? What kind of mother am I going to be? Geekdom isn’t my only defining feature. Feminism and multiculturalism are just two other very important aspects of my life.
Computer lid down, TV on, escape modus activate!
And so it went on for months. But, gradually I became accustomed to the idea of becoming a mom (I mean there was no way around it, I’m as big as a house!). I also started to surrender to the fact that it’s not about knowing what kind of parent you’ll be, but discovering yourself as a parent, with all the idiosyncrasies that make you the person you are.
Then, I started to notice the geeky part of how I approach motherhood. Which is a relief actually, geek culture is a big and fun part of the life of her daddy and I. And it’s definitely something that will be a part of our daughter’s life.
And so the indoctrinating begins.
A nursery with pink walls and fluffy clouds? Nope. A baby mobile that plays ‘Twinkle Twinkle Little Star? Nope. Our little bundle of joy is getting a steampunk inspired Hogwarts themed nursery. She’ll be sleeping under a canopy of the Hogwarts Houses. Looking up at her unique mobile with Totoro playing especially composed versions of her parent’s favorite movie tunes. And yes, that includes Jurassic Park and Star Wars themes.
There are still moments when questions start to haunt me again and I wonder what kind of impact this will have on her. Will she appreciate this slightly different start at life? Will she quickly turn her back on our fandoms and become more *gasp* mainstream?
But then again, it doesn’t matter. Because, eventually all I want is to bring my little girl up with all the love her daddy and I can give her. That our geeky, slightly peculiar side will mean that she’ll have wonderful experiences growing up and will open her mind to new ideas (even those that differ from ours, or should is say.. Especially those?) and to accept the extraordinary things of life!